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And then there is hate

I start each blog here on Mondays with the intention of being interesting or funny or at least sarcastic (if only to amuse myself) but it’s been difficult lately. I don’t have the words to express my sadness and anger and frustration the state of the world currently requires.

Rape isn’t funny.

Murder isn’t funny.

Bigotry isn’t funny.

Politics? Well, that ceased to be funny a while ago. While one side is decidedly headed by a profoundly hilarious clown, I can’t laugh when I see how many people think he is a valid example of a world leader, especially when he pulls out his favorite Lincoln-Douglas debate retort: I know you are but what I am, you loser. (Now that I think about it, maybe PeeWee Herman deserves a write-in campaign this year.)

And then there is hate.

And then there is violence.

And then there are tears and wailing at walls and for walls.

And then there is pointing fingers and demanding answers and assigning blame.

And then there is a call for retribution, blind though it may be.

And then there is a reminder that we do not yet have all the answers.

And then we fold in when we remember black and white are just for words on a page.

And then we sift through the grey particles of our grey matter as we search for truth and meaning.

And then we bury the dead and we bury our feelings.

And then we wait.

We wait for something to be done. Surely something will be done THIS time, right?

I am tired of counting the dead. I am tired of having to prove the worth of a woman. I am tired of explaining the self-evident concept of “all are created equal”.

I join a chorus of women – of people – who call (yet, one more time) for something better.

Your right to hate ends at our right to live in peace.

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“To girls everywhere, I am with you”

I wrote something for today but then I read the letter.

If you don’t know what letter I’m talking about then you haven’t been paying attention. You must pay attention.

“To girls everywhere, I am with you”

Even now. Even after all of it. Even after reading the letter to a courtroom of a judge, jury, and her rapist, she is with us.

This could be you.
Your daughter.
Your partner.
Your friend.
It could be any of us.

The letter is all you need read today. It is powerful. It is moving. It is uncomfortable. It is revealing. It is pain spelled out in remembrances and thoughts of the future.

holding handsYou must pay attention.

“To girls everywhere, I am with you”

To the young woman from Stanford and to all women, especially the ones who never got a chance to stand up against those who assaulted them, I stand with you. I cry with you. I fight with you.



From BuzzFeed

Here Is The Powerful Letter The Stanford Victim Read Aloud To Her Attacker

A former Stanford swimmer who sexually assaulted an unconscious woman was sentenced to six months in jail because a longer sentence would have “a severe impact on him,” according to a judge. At his sentencing Thursday, his victim read him a letter describing the “severe impact” the assault had on her.

Read the letter HERE

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I’d Like to Opt Out of Opting Out

the post where i offend everyone

It is amazing any kind of law gets made, upheld, or overturned in this country. Such twisting and turning of words is required. You ladies waiting for birth control better put that aspirin back between your knees.

Yes, I did read the SCOTUS transcript in Zubik v. Burwell, otherwise known as

The Super Duper Catholic Sisters of the Poor


ABSOLUTELY fair and reasonable access to insurance covered contraception

Arguments were heard today, March 23, 2016. Results to come out later this year. My guess is a 4-4 split because heaven forbid we get something done this year. (Senate, #DoYourJob!)

By the way, the rights of individual women in this country are apparently not as important as the rights of a group of nuns–nuns who believe contraception is such a sin they can hardly look at babies because of all the sinning it takes to make them.

Sure, these nuns do good works, but if we grade them on a curve I’d say they are fair to middling people at best. All we asked them to do was sign a piece of paper absolving them of any responsibility for providing contraception in the insurance plans they offer their non-nun employees. But somewhere in the New Testament there is apparently a verse that says signing the form banishes them to hell, so off to the Supreme Court they went. (Can you say redundant?)

These holy women are asking for exceptional accommodations and exemptions.

They are asking the Supreme to allow them to OPT OUT of the proposed OPT OUT method provided by the government.

Yes, they object to the very act of opting out, and so they want to opt out. The Opt Out Form is too much of a burden to their sincerely held beliefs. They would prefer to just let women suffer in silence.

Actually, what they want is for women to have two insurance plans. One is provided by the Sisters and it would cover all the non-sinful things. The other would be purchased separately through the ACA exchange. It would be done in a dark room across town so the nuns wouldn’t have to witness it. Rather than signing the form releasing them from all responsibility, these Brides of Christ would prefer to cover their eyes, stick their fingers in their ears, and sing La la la la I can’t hear you.

They KNOW many of their employees will be using birth control but the nuns get a pass into Heaven if they pretend otherwise.

I get it. I do. I think I do.

To be honest the arguments in this case are a bit convoluted and I did not go down the rabbit hole of precedents, but it seems to me the crux of this case is about how many degrees of separation does it take for a nun to feel like they are not literally forcing a birth control pill down your throat.  It’s more than six degrees because Kevin Bacon is far too sexy. If the nuns have it their way we’ll have to go the climb the YUUUUGE Mexico wall to get birth control pills mixed in a dirty garage laboratory south of the border. Their pious minds will be eased knowing we will have travel through the NO ABORTION CLINICS ALLOWED wasteland called Texas. Praise Jesus!

Look, I don’t wish endometriosis on ANYONE, but perhaps their God could teach them a little compassion and perspective?? Birth Control pills are not always prescribed to control birth. More importantly, it’s none of their damn business why someone needs, wants, or uses birth control.

Sign the damn form and say a prayer. God will understand.

Yeah, yeah, Mea Culpa, Me Paenitet.

You can read the SCOTUS mess here:

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